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An Unexpected Mother’s Day Gift: 2 More Moms

14 May 2018

“I didn’t expect today to hit me from so many directions, but the adoption process has left no part of life untouched.”


mothers day ig


I expected next Mother’s Day to be revolutionary. I expected that next Mother’s Day I would look at my two boys with wonder and awe and gratitude that I can’t even imagine today. I expected that next Mother’s Day would be the one that was totally different.

But as I sat yesterday morning and thought about the moms in my life, I realized that there are, suddenly, two more.

+1 Mom

I still can’t tell you my Chinese son’s story, ’cause he’s not officially mine yet, but then there’s not much that I actually know about these women.

The first, of course, is his birth mother. We don’t know her, and we probably never will. We don’t know her situation or very much about the circumstances surrounding her pregnancy.



But I do know that she carried my son safely for nine months, and I know by experience that is no small task. I know that she chose to protect him, rather than take the free abortion service the Chinese government would have provided. I can’t tell you how yet, but I know that as she held him in her arms, she loved him. And and I know that she made probably the hardest decision of her life to do what she thought was best for him.  Read more…


China’s Orphan Boys

8 May 2018

When we decided that God was calling us to find our son in China, I was a little surprised at the enthusiasm from advocates and consultants. Of course they’re happy to work with anyone who wants to adopt at all, but we quickly learned we were in a kind of minority as a family who wants to adopt a boy from China.


chinese orphan boys


And two facts got stuck on repeat:

  • Most (about 75%) of the orphans in China are boys.
  • Most of the international adoption community wants to adopt girls from China.

It is such a reality that we soon discovered that even though we’re working from a very short list of medical conditions we feel we can take on (because we both work and we don’t have stellar health insurance), our expected wait time to be matched with a child might still be shorter than we expected just because we want a boy.

And no one really knows why.

China’s Orphans

In recent years, China has reported that they have about 600,000 orphans, but other sources estimate the number is closer to one million.  Read more…

The “Family” Art Show Fundraiser!

30 April 2018

Pretty sure we’ve been talking about this almost since the moment we started this whole crazy adventure, but it is finally upon us!


I feel like I say this all the time, but I promise it’s not lip service: We are blown away by the support that has been rolling in for this!

The Skinny

But first, the details:


“Family” Art Show
Saturday, May 19  |  6:00 – 10:00 pm 1875 N Milwaukee Ave, Chicago


There’s also a normal web page for the not-on-Facebook people. It’s not the most savvy thing on the internet, but as it’s only going to be up for a few weeks, I’m not super concerned about it. (I have grants to apply for, ain’t nobody got time for learning web dev right now.)

The Artists

This is where being blown away by the support comes in. Husband reached out to a bunch of his artist community on (mostly) Instagram, ’cause we figured that if you ask a lot of people and half say, “Sure” then you’ve got a good art show.

Because we understand first-hand trying to make it as an artist, but also holding down another job to pay the bills. And having a family, which is the situation for a lot of these people. People are super busy, for one, and time is hard to come by. We get that. We also have nothing but respect for artists who just don’t give away their art. It’s their livelihood, or they’re trying to make it their livelihood, and we understand the struggle.

But, you guys, pretty much everyone said, “Yes!” Check out this roster! (And follow them on IG!) Read more…